Talking to Young Children about Parental Illness

Opening the Door to Difficult Conversations: Using Books to Talk About Parental Illness with Young Children

As parents, we instinctively want to shield our children from life's hardships. But when illness strikes a family, it's impossible to completely protect them from the reality of the situation. Young children are incredibly perceptive and will likely pick up on changes in mood, routine, and family dynamics.

Rather than avoiding the topic, open, honest, and age-appropriate communication is crucial. This is where children's books can be invaluable tools. They offer a gentle, accessible way to introduce complex concepts related to bodies and illness, and can provide a safe space for children to process their emotions and understand what's happening.

One particularly helpful book is "What Happens When Someone I Love Doesn't Feel Good?" by Sarah Olsher. This book tackles the subject of parental illness head-on, exploring the range of emotions a child might experience – from worry and confusion to sadness and anger.

Here's why this book can be so effective:

• Simple Language: It uses clear, straightforward language that young children can easily grasp.
• Relatable Situations: The book depicts common scenarios associated with illness, like changes in a parent's energy levels.
• Focus on Feelings: It validates the child's emotions and helps them understand that their feelings are normal.
• Empowering Message: The book emphasizes the importance of love, support, and resilience within the family unit.

Tips for parents and caregivers: 

• Read it together: Snuggle up with your child and read the book together. This creates a safe and comforting environment for discussion.
• Encourage questions: Invite your child to ask questions and answer them honestly, while keeping your explanations age-appropriate.
• Connect it to your situation: Relate the story to your own experiences, explaining how the illness is affecting you and your family.
• Reassure your child: Emphasize that you are receiving the care you need and that your love for them remains constant.
• Offer hope: While being realistic about the challenges, focus on the positive aspects, such as the support of family and friends.

Remember, every child is different. Some children may be more open to discussing their feelings than others. Be patient, understanding, and follow your child's lead.

Using books like "What Happens When Someone I Love Doesn't Feel Good?" can be a powerful way to initiate conversations about a parent's illness, fostering understanding, resilience, and a sense of connection within your family.